i have heard these words preached over, spouted, as a snide remark, but not until i applied them to myself did they have any value…you may have read these, heard them, lived with them, but have you ever taken them in?
Love is patient : Would it serve me to be more serene/forgiving/tolerant of how i am right now?
Love is kind : In what way can i show myself courtesy/generosity/warmth?
It does not envy: Is there bitterness/resentment/longing that i can let go of?
It does not boast: Have i been blowing hot air ? Talking to hear the sound of my own voice?
It is not proud: Has the faith people have put in me gone to my head?
It is not rude: Have i been sarcastic/flippant/violent?
It is not self-seeking: Have i been so lost in “finding/expressing/defending myself” that i have not been present in my life?
It is not easily angered: How does my fuse look? What can i do to calm/centre/settle myself?
It keeps no record of wrongs: Have i been critical of others? Can i let an old grudge go?
When i find myself feeling loveless this is my “go to” list. Without fail it gives me a starting point for where my attitude or behaviour needs to be adjusted. It gives me a focus point, some guidelines. Sometimes it gives me the brutal truth about myself.
Then i ask myself “If you saw someone you love feeling how you are feeling now, what would you do for them?”
i do that for myself, even if it feels awkward!
with love as always